Woman calls out her creepy sister who married 3 widowers with kids in a row to fulfill her dream of being a mom, much to the amusement of her 14 and 16-year-old stepchildren: 'I told [my dad] she won't ever be our mom and her sister was right'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Feb 19, 2025 6:00 PM EST

I hate when someone asks me about my "type." I've noticed a pattern emerging with the people I have dated seriously, but I wouldn't want to completely limit myself in future endeavors to the kinds of people I have dated previously! It feels weird to articulate your specific dating preferences. It might be true that you primarily date people with a specific hair color, of a certain race, or with a particular body type, but that makes it seem like you're objectifying someone for their physical appearance. 

There's a difference between incidentally dating several Asian women in your life and saying, "I only date Asian women because they're submissive." The latter is fetishizing a group for their race and attributing untrue characteristics to all members of that race. Having a type isn't inherently nefarious, but seeing one demographic as specifically suited to fulfill your twisted fantasies is not a good look.

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  • The woman at the center of this story has a type, alright. She has been married three times, and all three of these men are widowers with children. She's trying to fulfill her fantasy of becoming a mother despite not being able to have children herself, but it's not going as planned.

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    AITA for laughing when my dad's wife's sister humiliated her and made her cry?

    My dad's wife's family came to our house for dinner on Saturday. His wife and her sister ended up fighting over me (16m) and my sister (14f). Her sister was calling my dad's wife delusional and mentioned that she's been married 3 times to 3 men who lost their wives and had kids. She
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    said she was trying to live out her mommy fantasy that she can't have with bio kids. But she could never accept or see that none of her stepkids gave af about her and that she only left her last husband when one of his kids pushed her down the stairs. And
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    she always stayed longer and pretended she was a mom. She said it's clear to everyone except for her that me and my sister don't want anything to do with her. And that she's holding onto a marriage where she'll be miserable when she realizes the two of us won't ever let her be our mom. Her sister also said the
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    only difference between us and the old stepkids was the fact we didn't do everything we could to make her life h I to get rid of her. But we looked repulsed whenever she tried to hug us or wanted to spend time with us. She told her to open her eyes and get therapy.
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    My dad's wife got upset and she said it was so mean and why was she humiliating her by throwing all that stuff in her face about her ex-husband's and ex-stepkids and not being able to have her own kids.
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    It came up because my dad's wife was talking about my sister's birthday coming up in a week and how she wanted a mom and daughter shopping trip for the two of them. Her sister rolled her eyes and it started them off.
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    My dad's wife was really upset but I laughed and so did my sister. It was mostly how my dad's wife denied what her sister said and made it seem like we loved her and she is a real mom. But the thing is her sister is 100% right and we don't see her as our mom or accept her as our family.
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    Our dad loves her for real and has let her try to step all over mom's memory by trying to play mommy and inserting herself into our lives and making us celebrate her for Mother's Day and stuff. But we don't accept it and we won't ever appreciate her or be glad she's here and if they divorce or dad dies we won't even look at her again. I don't
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    even care if she's doing it to try and make everyone happy. I hate that she won't accept no and that we tell her we don't want another mom and she does it because we "need a mom" and crop like that.
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    When me and my sister laughed it made things worse. Her sister was like see and we were asked to speak up and we said she's right. I said I didn't know all the stuff about before but it was gross to try and replace de d mom's because she couldn't have her own kids.
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    My dad wasn't happy with us and he ended up kicking his wife's sister out. Yesterday he talked to us after he calmed down and said it was really mean to let our mom be treated like that and I told him she won't ever be our mom and
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    her sister was right that she's delusional that she can't see we don't love or want her. He said we might feel like that but laughing was cruel when she was so upset. AITA?
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    Samarkand457 Your dad's wife sure knows how to pick them, huh?
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    Akot_elderm flips to the obituaries
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    De-railled I mean, it seems like her dating checklist isn't that extensive. "widowed men, with kids..." I'm sure there's facebook or support group she can stalk to find her 4th husband.
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    Lulszorig OP That's her entire list. Her sister said she doesn't even wait to fall in love. She doesn't even need to marry some of them before she claims the kids as hers.
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    squirrelfoot As someone who wanted kids and couldn't have them, I can understand the pain she must feel and could excuse a little craziness due to that, but this is just wlld! You don't make your problems other people's problems. In particular, you don't make your problem a child's problem. This is wildly unacceptable. She's an adult and should act like one.
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    GreenOnionCrusader How is she finding so many men with kids and a de d wife? Is there some kind of dating site for this?
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    Lulszorig OP Apparently there are or at least groups that focus on this. I never knew that until a few days ago.
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    Janisseho NTA. I wish parents read all these stories and learn not to impose mothers/fathers on grieving children. We all should try to be a little kinder with each other and respect the memory of the person that is gone.
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    Lulszorig OP I wish my dad could've found someone who was okay with being a stepmom or just a dad's wife instead of a mom. He maybe wanted more but I don't get why. He was married to mom before she di d. It confuses me why he'd want to replace her like that.
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    Sea-Leadership-8053 Because he just wants someone to take care of you and your sister so it's not all on him.. Just a suggestion but maybe pack up anything of your mom's and ask a family member to store in case step-mom tries to throw it away over this.
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    NachoAveragePITA Wait, you want healthy boundaries?! I suppose you want food to eat, a roof over your head, and clothes on your back, too. You kids and your entitlement! Sheesh! <Sarcasm> In all honesty, you aren't asking too much. I've been in your shoes. It s ks. Parents are supposed to advocate for their kids, and when they don't, it's fed up. 1,000% NOT the a hole.
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    No_Cockroach4248 If your dad's wife has been married three times to three men who lost their wives with kids, she is delusional and her sister was right to warn you. She does not love your dad, she loves the idea of playing mother.
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    Your dad is not helping either, he is enabling her dreams of being a mother. If I were you, I would be making plans to move out with your sister as soon as possible. It would not take much to get her completely unhinged. NTA, it is more cruel to constantly force two kids to accept a mother that they do not wish to have
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    Lulszorig OP Yep. Her sister also brought up the fact she's against dating men with kids with ex's even if the ex's are out of the kids lives. She always goes for the guys with de d wives. It's so creepy.
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    BasicRabbit4 She's using children with deceased mothers to heal her infertility trauma. She thinks she can step in and be an instant mother and it would be the same as having her own kids. It doesn't work that way. She's ignoring what the kids need.. like time and boundaries in pursuit of what she thinks she needs. That's why all the kids end up resenting and hating her. She needs intensive therapy.
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